Best break-up movie ever!

Just saw "Forgetting Sarah Marshall." It was the funniest and most true to life break-up movie ever. It is a must-see and I laughed so much, I almost cried.

Kudos: No drunk-dialing

It was bound to happen: that moment when I no longer think about my ex. My track record is getting better. It took me months to get over my ex before this one. This time? Less than two weeks (and I resisted the urge to drunk dial - helped by the fact that I've been staying away from tequila shots!!) I no longer check his myspace page. I no longer wonder how he's doing. I no longer wonder what could have been. I am excited about continuing to take care of things in my life and giving myself the space to breathe. At some point, I'll join the dating world again, but not anytime soon.

The upside of breakups

Breakups have their perks - sometimes you just have to dig deep to find them. The biggest one I can think of right now is a lower cell phone bill. Yes, that's right. The gods have conspired to make certain that only men outside of my national calling network make their way into my life.

Other perks? Not having to shave your legs in the winter time...well, on second thought, maybe we should all continue this upkeep, winter or summer, single or in a relationship - no need to let the legs go!

Delete - it does a body good

So here's a tip that's helped me in past breakups: do not be afraid to delete! Erase all reminders of your ex. Yes, that means delete him from your myspace page (or at least remove him from your top friends list so you don't see him every time you log on). You might have to delete his "showing love" comments separately. Also, delete him from Facebook, from your cell phone contact list, from your inbox. Throw away (or stow away) old photographs. Not easy to do, but trust me it really helps! Removing all traces of him will help you move on. You may not be able to do it all at once, but taking small steps is okay.

Resist the urge

Break ups suck. There is no getting around that. There are couples everywhere and not so long ago you were one of them! I was reminded yesterday why I avoided post-break up blues in the past by rebounding into the next available relationship. I was out with my bff last night at a comedy club. Not a great place for somebody who has just broken up. Though I laughed my ass off, 90% of the crowd there seemed to be on a date, which only reminded me of my ex. To top it off, there were video clips played of a very popular sitcom. One of the characters looks exactly like my ex. UGH.

This was a test. I know it. I continued to resist the urge to rebound. I was not helped by the fact that I received two compliments on my myspace page from local guys. In the past, I would have written back with a quickness and had a few dates lined up for the upcoming weekend. But I deleted both of them and continued to be confident that I'm doing the right thing.

On the flip side, I bumped into two movies that were both excellent reminders of why rebounding bites you in the end. I recommend both of these DVDs without hesitation. The first is "Feast of Love," with Greg Kinnear and Morgan Freeman. Kinnear's character is desperately in search of love and jumps into a disastrous rebound relationship in order to shield himself from the pain of the break up (sound familiar??)


The other film is a Mexican movie called "La Sorpresa," (The Surprise). Another dramatic look at rebound relationships...this time with a twist!Both of these movies should be in the DVD collection of any serial rebounder. If the urge to rebound is particularly strong on any given day, watch these films as a reminder of what NOT to do.

Build a bridge and get over it

I missed him today. The ex.
Even though I was the one that broke it off...preemptive move on my part to avoid getting hurt (it's how I do - though I still end up getting hurt). I miss having him in my life. I miss the plans we made that never came to pass. I miss him.

It was bound to happen. Not uncommon for having broken up four days ago. Our relationship was doomed from jump street. I was on the rebound from a six-month relationship, he was on the rebound from a divorce. Two people on the rebound. Basically a recipe for disaster. I did us both a favor by letting go. Doesn't make it any easier, though.

Thanks to this blog, I don't feel the urge to jump into another relationship or into the dating pool just yet. Unlike the past, I will allow myself the time to mourn this man. However long that takes. Here's an interesting anonymous quote I found online: "Cry a river, build a bridge and get over it." and that's exactly what I will do...

Blame it on the Internet

So here's my theory. The Internet is to blame for the increase in rebound relationships. Hear me out. Back in the day, a person would go through a break up and the process of jumping into a rebound relationship took more time. It involved hitting a few bars, shaking the bootie at a few clubs, going through the Rolodex of exes and past gentleman callers. Fast forward to the present and all it takes for a recently broken up chick to seek solace in a quickie rebound relationship is an uploaded picture and a profile online. It is just too easy. Within a few hours, any decent looking girl can log on to said dating website and be welcomed with a flooded inbox of male prospects.

Speaking of which, that is exactly what I would be doing if I hadn't decided to start this blog! I'm on day three of my anti-rebounding new life and it feels great. When I finally do decide to go back on the dating scene, it'll be because I'm ready to meet somebody new and not because I'm looking to avoid the pain of a recent breakup.