Day One - It's like AA with no meetings or coffee...

A few months ago, I watched a Tyra Banks' episode about dating where one of the experts recommended a 3-month period of datelessness after a breakup. Yes, you read that right: three months! My best friend, who also happens to be right about most things, pointed out that I should try that. I had just ended a six-month relationship with somebody I cared much about, but 3 dateless months seemed unbearable. What's a single girl to do?

I agreed with her and embraced my new datelessness. I'm sad to report I was only able to hang for seven days! You see, my bff was away for the weekend and I was left to my own devices. I posted a profile online at one of my fave dating sites and while she was on a plane, I was secretly preparing for my next date. That date turned into a two month mistake, which I ended today. The results of my time with this guy? Predictable. The results of my last several major relationships which span 10 years worth of men? Also, predictable.

Teaching myself new tricks...
So after a false start, I decided it was time. My relationship approach is clearly not working and if I keep at it, I will find myself in this situation time and time again with nobody to blame but yours truly.

So here goes nothing. I will commence a three-month, by choice, period of datelessness. I will comb through my past (which includes a 5-year rebound marriage, gulp! you see why these things are anonymous) and glean insight I have missed by not taking a break. I will look at patterns and my own behavior to determine why I keep attracting and developing feelings for men that are clearly wrong for me - crap! three months may not be enough time.

Be brave...be very, very brave
Lest you think I'm the only one that can do this, feel free to use this blog as your support on your own anti-rebounding journey! If you've been involved in bad relationships or you continue to attract relationships that are fodder for bad soap operas, perhaps a break would do you some good too. I don't claim to have the answers...hell, I don't even know the questions at this point, but I would welcome any readers that want to join me. Feel free to post comments, thoughts, suggestions, etc without having to reveal who you are. Think of this as your Alcoholic Anonymous meeting of sorts...a place where serial rebounders can come to heal and break the chains of the past! Lofty goals, I know...